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Dear Daughters, Boy Makes Parents, Not Children, Uncomfortable Dressing as Sleeping Beauty

Dear Daughters,

On March 6, 2013 the author of a blog called The Meta Picture posted a picture of her then nearly four-year-old son, Chester, dressed as Sleeping Beauty. He had been invited to his friend, Chloe’s prince and princess-themed birthday party. Chester chose to go as Sleeping Beauty. His attire included a Sleeping Beauty dress and a clip in his beautiful blond hair. You can see the picture of Chester on The Meta Picture blog.

The children at the party found nothing wrong with the fact that Chester chose to dress as Sleeping Beauty. In fact, they complimented him on his costume. It was the adults who had a problem. It was the adults who made the damaging assumptions and comments.

According to Chester’s mother, the fathers of the other children present made fun of Chester’s dad for having a son dressed as a princess. Chester’s dad responded that Chester was happy. Isn’t that what we all want for our children?

According to the blog post, other comments that were made included:

“Oh that is just cruel.”

What is so cruel about it exactly? The child was invited to a birthday party. He not only attended the party, but he did so in the very costume he desired. Bad parenting for sure.

“Why did you make him wear a dress?”

Never assume people. It makes an ass out of you and me. Seems the assumption was made that if a boy wears a princess dress to a party he was obviously forced to do so. People seem to have a hard time imagining that a boy might choose to do so. Why is that?

“Poor little man, what’s your mommy playing at?”

Again with the assumptions. If a boy wears a princess dress to a party no way he would choose to do so and obviously it was the mother’s idea. What?

“He’s going to hate you when he grows up.”

And why wouldn’t he? Imagine what horrible parents he has allowing him to choose his costume and then buying it for him and even doing his hair to match.

“No way I’d let my son dress like a girl.”

Who would want to dress like a girl, right? So degrading for a boy. Don’t get me started. Also, as I have said before, dresses are just articles of clothing. They do not have a gender. Why can’t boys wear dresses? Who made up these nonsensical fashion rules anyway?

Congratulations to Chester’s parents on their brilliant parenting. There should be more parents like you in the world.

This situation gives credence to the theory that this idea of what girls and boys are supposed to look and act like is a learned behaviour. Seems that Chester and his friends weren’t given the lesson yet. Sadly, based on the comments of the parents at the party, it won’t be long before they are.

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