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From me to you, highlighting challenges faced by girls

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Hey there! My name is Terynn and I am the proud 42-year-young mother of three dear daughters (born 2002, 2004 and 2006) who are the inspirations for this blog. We live in Cole Harbour, Nova Scotia, Canada. If our hometown sounds familiar you are likely a Sidney Crosby fan, a Trailer Park Boys fan or have heard of Rehtaeh Parsons, the 17-year-old girl whose tragic death has thrust victim-blaming into the spotlight.

Growing up playing sports and not being a lover of Barbies and dresses, I constantly experienced challenges simply because I was a girl. I felt pressured to act and look a certain way simply because I was a girl. I didn’t like it then and I certainly don’t like that these same challenges and pressures still exist for my daughters.

The defining moment…

In 2012 I found a book in my daughter’s backpack. The back cover was blue and the front cover had an illustration of a boy sailing on the ocean in rough waters. It was entitled Stories for Boys. When my daughter saw me with the book, she blushed and quickly placed it back into her backpack. She confided that she was embarrassed that the book she had chosen from the school library was “for boys”. That was a defining moment for me. Although we had had many discussions about the ludicrous societal expectations and rules based on gender, I knew then I had to make it abundantly clear that she had nothing to be ashamed of. Girls can read adventure stories.

This is when Dear Daughters was born!

What I Want Readers to Learn from Dear Daughters

I want to show that strong, confident, successful women have always and will continue to exist in all areas of life. I want to introduce the struggles (new and old) faced by women and how close (or how far) we are to eliminating gender bias in the world. I want everyone to remember that every woman is somebody’s daughter. I want to show that gender bias occurs on a daily basis, and often we are unaware it is happening.

What I Don’t Want Readers to Take Away from Dear Daughters

I do not want people thinking that this is a male-bashing, men-are-no good-and-we-don’t-need-them-at-all type of blog. It is quite the opposite really. The hypermasculinization of boys and men in our society plays a huge role in the gender bias towards girls and women. We need to fix the ridiculous societal expectations and rules we have in place for boys and men just as much as we do the ones for girls and women.

What challenges do girls and women face on a daily basis?

1. The sexualization of their bodies and the importance that is put on their appearance. Girls and women are viewed as objects and/or possessions, increasing the likelihood that they will become victims of sexual and/or physical abuse and then ridiculed and blamed for what happened to them (victim-blaming).

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2. The tendencies of people to try to “protect” girls and to impose limitations in their lives. Girls and women are not encouraged to be active, competitive and/or aggressive. They are constantly stereotyped and encouraged to fulfill caring and nurturing roles.

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3. Being second-class citizens. Being a girl or doing anything “like a girl” is a negative thing.

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4. Inequalities – Less pay for the same work. Denied or limited access to education. Arranged marriages. The list goes on and on.

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Where to find me

When I am not writing, I am coaching soccer and ringette, playing hockey and serving as chauffeur to my three dear daughters. You can follow Dear Daughters on Twitter @DearDaughters, me on Twitter @writerbychoice1 and Instagram @writerbychoice and Dear Daughters on Facebook at facebook.com/DearDaughters.

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Posted by on Feb 7, 2014 in Olympics, Women in Sport | 0 comments

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Posted by on Feb 7, 2014 in Olympics, Women in Sport | 0 comments

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Posted by on Feb 4, 2014 in Books, Entertainment, Marketing, Toys/Literature | 2 comments

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Dear Daughters, 6 Super Bowl Commercials That Got it Right

Posted by on Feb 3, 2014 in Food/Beverages, Marketing, Other | 0 comments

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Dear Daughters, 7 Super Bowl Commercials That Don’t Get It #NotBuyingIt

Posted by on Feb 3, 2014 in Food/Beverages, Hypermasculinization, Marketing, Movements/Organizations, Other, Sexualization of Women, Society Says | 0 comments

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Dear Daughters, The Super Bowl is Tomorrow and We are Ready With the #NotBuyingIt App

Posted by on Feb 1, 2014 in Marketing, Movements/Organizations, Other, Society Says | 0 comments

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Dear Daughters, Canada Sending Record Setting 100 Female Athletes to 2014 Olympics

Posted by on Jan 30, 2014 in Olympics, Women in Sport | 0 comments

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Posted by on Jan 30, 2014 in Food/Beverages, Marketing, Movements/Organizations, Sexualization of Women, Society Says | 0 comments

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Dear Daughters, Here is How to Use the New #NotBuyingIt App

Posted by on Jan 28, 2014 in Marketing, Movements/Organizations, Society Says | 3 comments

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Dear Daughters, Why It IS Sexist To Say Boys Should Never Play With Dolls

Posted by on Jan 25, 2014 in Marketing, Society Says, Toys/Literature | 0 comments

Dear Daughters, Yesterday I came across a link on the Let Toys Be Toys Facebook page to an article entitled Why it’s not sexist to say boys should never play with dolls. And here is my response: Even before they were “steered towards a traditionally male profession to prove some dubious political point” girls and women have been naturally inclined to want to choose. Hayley Wickenheiser wanted to play hockey. Amelia Earhart wanted to fly planes. Jeannette Rankin wanted to work in politics. Malala Yousafzai is certainly not...

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