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From me to you, highlighting challenges faced by girls

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Hey there! My name is Terynn and I am the proud 42-year-young mother of three dear daughters (born 2002, 2004 and 2006) who are the inspirations for this blog. We live in Cole Harbour, Nova Scotia, Canada. If our hometown sounds familiar you are likely a Sidney Crosby fan, a Trailer Park Boys fan or have heard of Rehtaeh Parsons, the 17-year-old girl whose tragic death has thrust victim-blaming into the spotlight.

Growing up playing sports and not being a lover of Barbies and dresses, I constantly experienced challenges simply because I was a girl. I felt pressured to act and look a certain way simply because I was a girl. I didn’t like it then and I certainly don’t like that these same challenges and pressures still exist for my daughters.

The defining moment…

In 2012 I found a book in my daughter’s backpack. The back cover was blue and the front cover had an illustration of a boy sailing on the ocean in rough waters. It was entitled Stories for Boys. When my daughter saw me with the book, she blushed and quickly placed it back into her backpack. She confided that she was embarrassed that the book she had chosen from the school library was “for boys”. That was a defining moment for me. Although we had had many discussions about the ludicrous societal expectations and rules based on gender, I knew then I had to make it abundantly clear that she had nothing to be ashamed of. Girls can read adventure stories.

This is when Dear Daughters was born!

What I Want Readers to Learn from Dear Daughters

I want to show that strong, confident, successful women have always and will continue to exist in all areas of life. I want to introduce the struggles (new and old) faced by women and how close (or how far) we are to eliminating gender bias in the world. I want everyone to remember that every woman is somebody’s daughter. I want to show that gender bias occurs on a daily basis, and often we are unaware it is happening.

What I Don’t Want Readers to Take Away from Dear Daughters

I do not want people thinking that this is a male-bashing, men-are-no good-and-we-don’t-need-them-at-all type of blog. It is quite the opposite really. The hypermasculinization of boys and men in our society plays a huge role in the gender bias towards girls and women. We need to fix the ridiculous societal expectations and rules we have in place for boys and men just as much as we do the ones for girls and women.

What challenges do girls and women face on a daily basis?

1. The sexualization of their bodies and the importance that is put on their appearance. Girls and women are viewed as objects and/or possessions, increasing the likelihood that they will become victims of sexual and/or physical abuse and then ridiculed and blamed for what happened to them (victim-blaming).

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2. The tendencies of people to try to “protect” girls and to impose limitations in their lives. Girls and women are not encouraged to be active, competitive and/or aggressive. They are constantly stereotyped and encouraged to fulfill caring and nurturing roles.

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3. Being second-class citizens. Being a girl or doing anything “like a girl” is a negative thing.

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4. Inequalities – Less pay for the same work. Denied or limited access to education. Arranged marriages. The list goes on and on.

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Where to find me

When I am not writing, I am coaching soccer and ringette, playing hockey and serving as chauffeur to my three dear daughters. You can follow Dear Daughters on Twitter @DearDaughters, me on Twitter @writerbychoice1 and Instagram @writerbychoice and Dear Daughters on Facebook at facebook.com/DearDaughters.

Tally Tuesday Repost – What Is Your Favourite Colour?

Posted by on Feb 17, 2015 in Daily Doses, Tally Tuesdays | 0 comments

Reposting this survey. It’s easy and fun! Simply share your favourite colour with us:) Link to the survey is below. What Is Your Favourite Colour? Those that know me know that my favourite colour is hands down – orange, orange, orange. That is why my brand new fiction writing site is called Orange Fiction. Can’t wait to hear what colours you like! Share this:Share on...

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Dear Daughters, Before Rosa Parks There Was Viola Desmond!

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Dear Daughters, Before Rosa Parks There Was Viola Desmond!

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Posted by on Feb 2, 2015 in #morethanwhatyousee Monday, Daily Doses | 0 comments

#morethanwhatyousee Monday

Girls, boys, women and men, join us on #morethanwhatyousee Monday and let’s take the focus off of our bodies! Tweet something you love about yourself or that people may not know about you, that has nothing to do with your appearance, using the hashtag #morethanwhatyousee If you have a blog please feel free to share the link each and everytime you tweet on #morethanwhatyousee Monday. I love writing children's fiction #morethanwhatyousee Monday deardaughters.ca — Dear Daughters (@DearDaughters) February 2, 2015 Share this:Share on...

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Tally Tuesday – What is Your Favourite Colour?

Posted by on Jan 20, 2015 in Daily Doses, Tally Tuesdays | 0 comments

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#morethanwhatyousee Monday

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#morethanwhatyousee Monday

Girls, boys, women and men, join us on #morethanwhatyousee Monday and let’s take the focus off of our bodies! Tweet something you love about yourself or that people may not know about you, that has nothing to do with your appearance, using the hashtag #morethanwhatyousee If you have a blog please feel free to share the link each and everytime you tweet on #morethanwhatyousee Monday. My favourite colour is orange!!! #morethanwhatyousee Monday deardaughters.ca What is your favourite colour? — Dear Daughters (@DearDaughters) January...

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Food For Thought Friday – Our Subconscious Thoughts

Posted by on Jan 16, 2015 in Clothing, Daily Doses, Food For Thought Friday, Marketing, Society Says | 0 comments

Food For Thought Friday – Our Subconscious Thoughts

Dear Daughters, I cannot believe this happened to me of all people. Me. I was more shocked than anyone when I said what I said out loud because it goes against everything I truly believe (read below). It just goes to show the damaging and inaccurate thoughts that can be imprinted into our subconsciousness from repeated messages we receive on a daily basis (in this case that Superman is for boys). When we don’t stop and think critically about these messages, our subconscious thoughts often become our conscious thoughts. Share this:Share...

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Posted by on Jan 14, 2015 in Daily Doses, Feminism, Past and Present, Wordy Wednesday | 0 comments

Wordy Wednesday – Miss, Ms. Mrs. and Mr.

Dear Daughters, Most people think that Mrs. is an abbreviation for missus, the feminine form of mister or Mr. They are almost correct. Mrs. is the abbreviation for the feminine form of mister. However, the feminine form of mister (or master) is not missus, but mistress! Yep, mistress. By the 17th century, mistress was used to refer to a woman who enjoyed a lavish lifestyle supported by a wealthy man in exchange for sexual pleasures. By the 20th century women were more educated and able to support themselves and therefore less dependent on...

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Tally Tuesday – Should Women Be Legally Required to Take Their Husband’s Name?

Posted by on Jan 13, 2015 in Daily Doses, Tally Tuesdays | 1 comment

On Food For Thought Friday we posted that 50% of Americans think women should be legally required to take their husband’s names when they marry. We decided to conduct our own survey. Do you agree with this stat Americans? And what about you Canadians? Mexico? Korea? Germany? India? Wherever you live we want to know what you think! Create your free online surveys with SurveyMonkey , the world’s leading questionnaire tool. Share this:Share on...

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